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Simplifying personal hygiene

Life is suppose to be simple, but somehow we’ve lost sight of that fact and have allowed ourselves to become brainwashed by all kinds of companies wanting to make us believe we need to use their products. One example are skin products such as expensive anti-aging creams. The truth is, we’re aging faster than we ought to because of what we’re eating and placing on our skin. There is no such thing as a magic pill or lotion.

Just about everything can be cured/fixed/reversed through diet and eliminating toxins. Plain and simple. It is just as important to be aware of what we eat, as well as what we put on our skin because whatever it absorbs, it goes into our blood stream.

If we have dry skin, change your diet.
If you are showing signs of aging, change your diet.
If you have cancer, change your diet.
If you suffer from depression, change your diet.
If you have acne, change your diet.

Change your diet and STOP putting chemicals and toxic products on your skin and hair. Several years ago I stopped using lotions on my skin and extra hair products. I got rid of a lot of make-up as well and nail polishes, etc., etc. I’m much more careful with what I put on my skin and hair to avoid toxic chemicals.

Back in August I suffered from my very first anxiety and panic attack. Never in my life had I experienced such a horrific thing. It truly was the worst experience ever. I took on a very stressful managerial job about three or four years ago. I strongly believe my anxiety and panic attack was caused by that stress along with the crappy food choices I made.

Our bodies can only hang in there for so long before they finally break down. Everything eventually catches up to us.

At the moment when I was experiencing my anxiety and panic attack, I thought I was having a heart attack. Good thing about panic and anxiety attacks is that no one has every died from them (even though you feel like you’re dying when you’re having them.)

I did some research on the topic and learned about a lot of things that can be done to better my mental health naturally. At that time I decided to stop dying my hair. I’m 35 years old and I’ve got A LOT of grey hair. I dye my hair every month because I’m just not ready for grey hair yet. LOL. After I had the anxiety and panic attack, I decided keeping my brain cells healthy was more important than hiding my grey. So for 4 months I went without dying my hair until I learned about Henna.

Henna is a flowering plant used to dye skin, hair, fingernails, leather, silk and wool. It has been used as a cosmetic hair dye for 6,000 years. In Ancient Egypt, Cleopatra and Nefertiti were known to have used it. It also acts as an anti-fungal and a preservative for leather and cloth. The flowers have been used to create perfume since ancient times. Henna repels some insect pests and mildew.

Henna’s coloring properties are due to lawsone, a burgundy organic compound that has an affinity for bonding with protein. Lawsone is primarily concentrated in the leaves.

I heard about Henna before, but didn’t know it was used for more than drawing on skin. I was very happy to learn it was also used to dye hair and it was natural and nontoxic. So as you can guess, I purchased some henna online at and colored my hair with it. I was very impressed with the color and how much softer my hair felt. Many people use Henna to condition their hair every month.

The other day I came across an online article talking about washing your hair with baking soda instead of shampoo. I’m all for saving money, as long as it doesn’t cost me my health. A few years ago I switched over to using organic shampoos and conditioners. I don’t know if 100% organic/natural shampoo and conditioners exist, but I wanted to be as close to it as possible. Non-organic shampoo and conditioners are full of chemicals and do more harm than good.

Washing your hair out simply with baking soda and water sounds too good to be true, but I did the research and it’s safe and I’m ready to give it a try. I bought some baking soda last night and will use it this morning when I shower. Organic shampoo and conditioners are quite expensive, I usually pay anywhere between $7.99 and $9.99 for each, and they usually only last about a week and a half because I have a lot of hair.

I’m excited about using the baking soda. I’ll be saving some money now that I’ll be purchasing baking soda for under a buck.

You can also use baking soda to clean and whiten your teeth. Just sprinkle some baking soda in a small dish and dip your damp brush. Another thing to save money on as organic toothpaste can be expensive as well.


Cleaning with White Distilled Vinegar

I’ve been wanting to stop using toxic cleaning products at home and found this great info on the website. Visit the website for tips for lots of other uses besides cleaning.

White distilled vinegar is a popular household cleanser, effective for killing most mold, bacteria, and germs, due to its level of acidity. Cleaning with white distilled vinegar is a smart way to avoid using harsh chemicals. You’ll also be glad to know that it is environmentally friendly and very economical.

To shine chrome sink fixtures that have a lime buildup, use a paste made of 2 tablespoons salt and 1 teaspoon white distilled vinegar.

Make your own scouring cleanser by combining 1/4 cup baking soda with 1 tablespoon liquid detergent. Add just enough white distilled vinegar to give it a thick but creamy texture.

Clean counter tops and make them smell sweet again with a cloth soaked in undiluted white distilled vinegar.

Clean and deodorize a drain by pouring in 1 cup baking soda, then one cup hot white distilled vinegar. Let this sit for 5 minutes or so, then run hot water down the drain.

Deodorize the garbage disposal by pouring in 1/2 cup baking soda and 1/2 cup hot white distilled vinegar. Let sit for 5 minutes then run hot water down the disposal.

Deodorize and clean the garbage disposal with white distilled vinegar ice cubes. Make them by freezing full-strength white distilled vinegar in an ice cube tray. Run several cubes down the disposal while flushing with cold water.

Clean the microwave by mixing 1/2 cup white distilled vinegar and 1/2 cup water in a microwave-safe bowl. Bring it to a rolling boil inside the microwave. Baked-on food will be loosened, and odors will disappear. Wipe clean.

Clean the shelves and walls of the refrigerator with a half-and-half solution of water and white distilled vinegar.

Cut the grime on the top of the refrigerator with a paper towel or cloth and full-strength white distilled vinegar.

Avoid the bad smell when you heat up a newly cleaned oven by using a sponge soaked in diluted white distilled vinegar for the final rinse.

To clean a grease splattered oven door window, saturate it with full-strength white distilled vinegar. Keep the door open for 10 to 15 minutes before wiping with a sponge.

Remove soap buildup and odors from the dishwasher by pouring a cup of white distilled vinegar inside the empty machine and running it through a whole cycle. Do monthly.

To prevent good glassware from getting etched by minerals, wash then spray with full-strength white distilled vinegar. Give the glasses a hot water rinse before letting them dry or drying them with a towel.

For cloudy glassware, soak paper towels or a cloth in full-strength white distilled vinegar and wrap around the inside and outside of the glass. Let sit awhile before rinsing clean.

Get rid of lime deposits in a tea kettle by adding 1/2 cup white distilled vinegar to the water and letting it sit overnight. If more drastic action is needed, boil full-strength white distilled vinegar in the kettle a few minutes, let cool and rinse with plain water.

Remove mineral deposits from coffee makers with white distilled vinegar. Fill the water reservoir with 1 cup or more of white distilled vinegar and run it through a whole cycle. Run it once or twice more with plain water to rinse clean. (Check the owners’ manual first.)

Remove stains from coffee and teacups by scrubbing them gently with equal parts of salt (or baking soda) and white distilled vinegar. Rinse clean.

For stained and smelly plastic food containers, wipe them with a cloth dampened with white distilled vinegar.

Remove odors from a lunch box by placing inside a slice of bread that has been soaked in white distilled vinegar. Leave overnight.

Remove ugly film in narrow-necked glass jars, flower vases, and bottles by letting undiluted white distilled vinegar sit in them for a few hours. Add a little rice or sand and shake vigorously to loosen stubborn stains. Repeat if necessary.

Easily clean your mini blinds by wearing pair of white cotton gloves. Dip gloved fingers into a solution of equal parts white vinegar and warm tap water, and run your fingers across both sides of each blind.

To clean tarnished brass, copper, and pewter, use a paste with equal amounts of white distilled vinegar and table salt.

Make a metal cleanser by adding enough white distilled vinegar to 2 tablespoons of cream of tartar to make a paste. Rub it on and let it dry on the surface. Wash it off and dry with a soft cloth.

Polish brass and copper with a mixture of 2 tablespoons of ketchup and 1 tablespoon white distilled vinegar. Rub it on with a clean cloth until dry and shiny.

Remove dark stains on an aluminum pot by boiling a mixture of 1 cup white distilled vinegar and 1 cup hot water.

Discourage ants by spraying undiluted white distilled vinegar outside doorways and windowsills, around appliances and wherever you find the pests coming in.

Get rid of fruit flies by setting out a small dish of undiluted white distilled vinegar.

Clean the wheel of a can opener using white distilled vinegar and an old toothbrush.

Remove the smell of spoiled food from a refrigerator by first rinsing the area with soap and water. Spray surfaces with full-strength white distilled vinegar and wipe them down with a damp cloth or sponge. Fill some containers with baking soda and place inside. Close the door and leave for a few days.

Wipe grease off exhaust fan grids, the inside of your oven, or anywhere grease gathers with a sponge soaked in white distilled vinegar.

To make cleaning the grill easier, spray a solution of half water and half white distilled vinegar on the cooking surface.

To remove a label, decal, or price tag, cover with a cloth soaked in white distilled vinegar. Leave the cloth on overnight and the label should slide off.

Renew sponges and dishrags by placing them in just enough water to cover them. Then add 1/4 cup white distilled vinegar. Let them soak overnight.

Get rid of calcium deposits on faucets by soaking a cloth or paper towel in white distilled vinegar and wrapping the area tightly. Let this sit for a couple of hours or overnight.

Remove soap buildup from faucets by scrubbing them with a solution of 1 part salt to 4 parts white distilled vinegar.

Rid a faucet of lime deposits by tying a plastic bag containing 1/2 to 1/3 cup of white distilled vinegar around it and leaving it there for two or three hours. If mineral deposits don’t wipe off, scrubbing with an old toothbrush should complete the job.

Shine colored porcelain sinks by scouring them with undiluted white distilled vinegar.

Rinse away soapy film on countertops with a solution of white distilled vinegar and water.

Clean grout by letting full-strength white distilled vinegar sit on it for a few minutes and scrubbing it with an old toothbrush.

Kill germs all around the bathroom with a spray of full-strength white distilled vinegar. Wipe clean with a damp cloth.

To remove grime, mildew, and scum from the tub, tile, shower curtain or door, wipe with undiluted white distilled vinegar. Rinse with water.

Spray shower doors with full-strength white distilled vinegar after you’ve squeegeed the glass, or before you step in and turn on the water. It will help release the hard water deposits so they don’t remain on the glass.

Mix up an inexpensive tile cleaner by adding 1/2 cup baking soda, 1 cup white distilled vinegar, and 1 cup ammonia to a gallon of warm water.

Get rid of stubborn bathtub film by wiping it with white distilled vinegar and then scouring with baking soda.

Soak a sponge or loofah overnight in a strong white distilled vinegar and water solution to remove dirt and slime. Rinse several times with cold water and let air dry (in the sun if possible).

Clean shower door tracks by filling them with white distilled vinegar and letting it sit for a few hours. Pour hot water into the tracks and wash and scrub away the scum with a toothbrush.

To clean a scummy showerhead, pour 1/2 cup baking soda and 1 cup white distilled vinegar into a sandwich bag and tie it around the showerhead. Let this set for an hour after the bubbling has stopped. Remove the bag and then turn on the water.

Deodorize the toilet bowl by allowing 3 cups white distilled vinegar to sit in it for about a half hour before flushing.

To make the toilet bowl sparkle, pour in a cup or more of diluted white distilled vinegar and let it sit several hours or overnight. Scrub well with the toilet brush and flush.

Freshen air in the bathroom by spraying into the air a solution of 1 teaspoon baking soda, 1 tablespoon white distilled vinegar, and 1 cup water.

Get a shining finish on a no-wax vinyl or linoleum floor by cleaning it with a solution of one cup white distilled vinegar for every gallon of water.

Apply full-strength white distilled vinegar directly to tough linoleum stains. Leave it on for 10 to 15 minutes before wiping it up. If that doesn’t work, apply white distilled vinegar again and then sprinkle some baking soda over the white distilled vinegar. Scrub the area with a brush or sponge. Rinse clean with water.

For an economical and environmentally friendly floor cleaner, mix a solution of 3 drops dishwashing liquid to 1/3 part white distilled vinegar, 1/3 part alcohol, and 1/3 part water. Spray sparingly and mop for a fast clean-up.

Some carpet stains can be removed with a paste of 2 tablespoons white distilled vinegar and 1/4 cup salt or baking soda. Rub into the carpet stain and let dry. Vacuum up the residue the next day. (Always test on an out-of-sight part of the carpet first).

Bring out the color in carpet by brushing it with a solution of 1 cup white distilled vinegar for every gallon of water. (Always test on an out-of-sight part of the carpet beforehand).

To reduce soap bubbles in a steam cleaner add about 1/4 cup white distilled vinegar. Use the same amount in the rinse water to remove detergent residue and make carpets stay fresh longer.

Wash indoor/outdoor carpet with a solution of 1 cup white distilled vinegar in 1 bucket of warm water. Scrub using a brush or a broom and then hose off.

Clean up pet accidents by first blotting up the area and then adding a white distilled vinegar-and-water solution. Blot until it is almost dry. Then sprinkle baking soda over the area and let it dry. Vacuum up the residue the next day.

Create your own window cleaning solution by combining 1/2 cup non-sudsy ammonia, 1 cup white distilled vinegar, and 2 tablespoons cornstarch in a gallon of water.

Remove the wax residue left by commercial window cleaners with a solution of 2 cups water, 1 cup white distilled vinegar and 1 teaspoon of liquid soap or detergent.

To remove paint from windows try using undiluted, hot white distilled vinegar. Give the solution time to soften the paint before removing with a razor edge tool.

To remove paint splatters from windows apply full-strength white distilled vinegar with a clean paintbrush.

Get rid of mildew, dust, and stale odors by wiping down walls with undiluted white distilled vinegar on a cloth or a sponge mop.

Clean woodwork and walls with a mixture of 1 cup white distilled vinegar, 1 cup baking soda, 1/2 cup ammonia and 1 gallon warm water. Wipe on with a sponge or damp—not wet—towel.

Clean wood paneling with a solution of 1/4 cup olive oil, 1/2 cup white distilled vinegar, and 2 cups warm water. Wipe on with a soft cloth.

Remove wallpaper easily by using a paint roller to wet the surface very thoroughly with a solution of equal parts white distilled vinegar and hot water. Or spray on until saturated.

Get decals off walls or doors by letting undiluted white distilled vinegar soak into them for several minutes before trying to peel them off. Repeat if necessary.

Remove white water rings from wood with a solution of equal parts white distilled vinegar and vegetable oil. Rub with the grain.

Remove fireplace soot and grime with undiluted white distilled vinegar. Use a brush to scrub and a towel to blot up the wetness and dirt.

Clean fireplace glass doors with a solution of 1 part white distilled vinegar to 2 parts water. Spray or wipe on, then wipe clean with a dry cloth.

To kill germs, spray full-strength white distilled vinegar on doorknobs and then wipe them dry.

Remove the smell of a dead mouse or other rodent (after removing all animal remnants) by wiping down the area with either white distilled vinegar or bleach. Then place a fabric softener sheet in the area to remove any lingering odors.

Never use white distilled vinegar on marble. The acid can damage the surface.

Before painting old concrete, clean with full-strength white distilled vinegar. Let it air dry.

Clean hardened paint brushes by simmering them in a pot with white distilled vinegar. Soak them first for an hour before bringing the white distilled vinegar to a simmer. Drain and rinse clean.

Remove mud and stains from plastic, fiberglass, or aluminum sports equipment by applying a paste of 1 part white distilled vinegar to 3 parts baking soda. Wipe off with soapy water and rinse with clear water.

Clean your grill by spritzing white distilled vinegar over wadded up aluminum foil and scrubbing the grill vigorously with it.

To remove film in glass baby bottles, fill with equal parts hot water and white distilled vinegar. Let sit for at least an hour. Scrub with a bottle brush.

To clean and disinfect baby toys add a good-sized splash of white distilled vinegar to soapy water.

Clean vinyl baby books or board books by wiping with white distilled vinegar. Wipe clean with a damp sponge or cloth.

Clean scissors that have become sticky (after cutting tape, for instance) with a cloth dipped in undiluted white distilled vinegar.

Clean and deodorize urine on a mattress with a white distilled vinegar and water solution. Then sprinkle the area with baking soda and let dry. Brush or vacuum the residue after it is dry to the touch.

Shine pennies by soaking them for a couple of hours or overnight in a glass or bowl of undiluted white distilled vinegar.

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10 Steps to a Healthy Colon and Digestive Tract

Above is a video I found on YouTube on Simple Strategies for Digestive Cleansing. Below is some info I found while researching on the web.

When animal and grain products, as well as all processed foods are digested, they become a sticky paste. Like the sticky paste of a very wet bread dough. Over time, the paste hardens, becoming food plaque. The food plaque covers the tiny holes in the intestinal tract. Once the bowel is toxic, it creates toxicity for the entire body and an inability to absorb the nutrients necessary for health and healing. A clogged colon is also the perfect environment and breeding ground for parasites.

There are five characteristics of a poorly functioning colon:
1. Moving bowels less than 2-3 times a day.
2. Straining to pass your bowel contents.
3. Having a hard stool that sinks to the bottom.
4. Chronic diarrhea, loose stool, or constipation.
5. Excess gas, bloating, and abdominal cramping.

Just as the pipes in your home accumulate a slimy, protein build-up, your colon accumulates a build-up of thick, sticky mucus, and poorly digested food debris on its sides. A narrow passageway is created, which slows up the drainage of the foodstuffs you eat. This build-up occurs when you eat the Standard American Diet (S.A.D.), and when your diet is deficient in fiber and water. The nasty toxic matter prevents proper absorption of nutrients, as well as poisoning your body.

When you don’t properly pass waste, food may stay in the colon for days, weeks, months and even years putrefying and then poisoning your entire system. A dirty, weak and poorly functioning colon is a serious breeding ground for disease, sickness and death.

A build-up of toxic waste in your colon can cause conditions like hair loss, insomnia, headaches, fatigue, decreased energy, acne, poor memory and concentration, bad smelling breath and belching, allergies, impaired immune system causing reduced resistance to infections, digestive problems, heartburn, indigestion, bloating, protruding stomach, body aches and pains, backache, weight gain, difficulty losing weight, low sex drive, poor sexual performance, constipation, diarrhea and the list goes on, including, unfortunately, colo-rectal cancer. In short, a toxic colon is a major factor in chronic illness.

The following foods/drinks from the SAD diet clog up your colon and cause poor colon health:
1. White flour acts like glue.
2. Fats are very sticky.
3. Meat stimulates the production of sticky mucus to help break down poorly digested meat.
4. Dairy is the most mucus-forming substance you could put in your mouth.
5. Alcohol, soda, coffee, and other caffeinated drinks stimulate your kidneys to excrete more water than it should to flush these toxic drinks from your body. This causes chronic dehydration. Dehydration causes you to lose more water out of your colon, which causes the fecal matter and mucus to become hard and stick to the sides of the colon.

The colon has reflexes that affect other parts of your body. For example, if your ascending colon (goes up right side of abdomen) is swollen and irritated, you may have liver issues, breathing issues or pain in your right leg or arm. If you have bulging in the turns of your colon (upper left and right quadrants of abdomen), you may have ringing of the ear or dizziness. If your transverse colon (crosses top of abdomen) is congested with encrusted fecal matter, you may have sinus congestion, allergies, foggy thinking, or memory loss. If your descending colon (goes down left side of abdomen) is enlarged and contains pockets filled with old fecal matter, you may have heart or lung trouble, shoulder or arm problems/pain, or spleen issues.

A healthy colon is about five feet long, two and a half inches in diameter, and weighs two to three pounds. The average American’s colon weighs ten to fifteen pounds. It is not uncommon for an unhealthy colon to weigh up to 60 pounds.

The colon’s main function is to remove water from the chyme (digesting food particles) and bulk up the stool. Friendly bacteria continue to further break down any partially digested food/meat substances. Friendly bacteria make nutrients such as vitamin K and some of the B vitamins. Your colon should eliminate its contents every 8-12 hours. Ideally, your stool should be a foot long, 1 inch around, and partially floating.

1. Consume raw vegetation, up to 65% of your diet.
2. Have good digestion by taking enzymes.
3. Increase soluble fibers by consuming psyllium, ground flax seeds, chia seeds, Irish Moss or Slippery Elm Bark. These swell and push out anything that may be stuck in your colon or digestive tract They also massage. They are soothing and gentle.
4. DRINK WATER! Water is nature’s best stool softener. Drink half your body weight in ounces of water per day (135 lbs. = 68 oz. or 8 C./day).
5. Eliminate refined, white flour and sugar, processed and deep-fried foods, dairy, and soda.
6. To aid in the most thorough bowel movement, place your feet on a stool about 10 inches high. This squat type position produces a more natural way to pass your bowels. It also supports your abdominal muscles and colon muscle.
7. Take a flora/probiotic (good bacteria) supplement, which contains two of the most common forms of good bacteria – acidophilus and Bifido bacterium, at bedtime.
8. Maintain a healthy gallbladder function because bile acts like a detergent to clean the walls of your colon. Bile makes your stools dark brown and move with little effort.
9. Never repress the urge to pass your bowels! Holding back the urge will cause a lazy bowel with subsequent chronic constipation.
10. Exercise helps to stimulate intestinal contractions.

Colon Hydrotherapy and occasional enemas can help loosen up old built-up fecal matter on the sides of your colon.

1. Chew your food until it is mush in your mouth.
2. Take a good digestive enzyme after every meal. If you are elderly or Blood Type A or AB, make sure the digestive enzyme has hydrochloric acid in it. A two-phase digestive enzyme is best.
3. Maintain a healthy colon.
4. Stay hydrated between meals to keep excess stomach acid diluted.
5. Avoid drinking with your meal to prevent diluting your digestive enzymes. Drink 30 minutes before your meal or wait 2-3 hours after eating to consume liquids.
7. Maintain good gallbladder health because it breaks down fat so minerals and nutrients can absorb through your small intestine. Take an Ox Bile or Bile salt supplement, if needed, and do a liver/gallbladder flush to clean out stones.
8. Eat fermented foods with every meal as much as possible. Some fermented foods are Sauerkraut, Kim chi, Kefir and Kombucha. These have friendly bacteria that eat all the junk or toxins that might be created by the digestive process.
9. Monthly, do a Salt Water Flush first thing in the morning on an empty stomach. Put 2 teaspoons of non iodized celtic sea salt in a quart of warm distilled or spring water (not tap water) and drink at once. If its too much for you, you can take sips until you finish the water solution. This will gently cleanse your entire digestive track. Salts are very soothing and mineralizing to your digestive tract. You’ll begin having several urgent bowel movements within 15 to 20 minutes that may last for about an hour or hour and a half.
10. Sleep is the stage when the body heals and maintains its organs. If you get enough sleep on a nightly basis, your colon can easily expel waste as well as toxins.

When your digestive tract is not functioning properly, your body has to make room to accommodate that growing pile of putrefied waste, which can harden and cause your colon to significantly expand in size to become what is referred to as a ‘mega-colon’.

Enzymes create the necessary digestion to protect the bowels and absorb the nutrients. Without digestion you create the one and only real basic disease—Intestinal Toxemia. Generally intestinal toxemia manifests itself as one of even more symptoms than those already listed: nervousness, endocrine disturbances, neuro-circulatory abnormalities, arthritis, sciatica and low back pain, allergy, asthma, eye, ear, nose and throat disease, cardiac irregularities, pressure on the prostate, and pathological changes in the breasts, mental sluggishness, loss of concentration, irritability, exaggerated introspection, obsessions, excessive worry, and more! Without the breakdown of food, starting with your saliva, then in the stomach and duodenum, the breakdown of health begins.

A cleaned intestinal Tract helps the body RESUME the regeneration process. This is is the schedule of the body re-creation/regeneration in our DNA.

120 Days – New Red Blood Cells
90 Days – New Skeleton
60 Days – New Bladder, New Brain Cells and tissue
45 Days – New liver, New DNA Cell Material
30 Days – New Hair, New Skin
5 Days – New Stomach Lining

Men and Women have the same regeneration schedule.

1. Elimination of Old Cell Matter: Old cells travel in the bloodstreem to the intestinal tract for elimination with food waste. Blood vessels are attached to the outside of the intestinal tract. In the intestinal Wall are tiny holes through which the old cells pass into the intestine.
2. Creation of new cells: New cells are created from nutrients (vitamins, minerals, proteins) in foods in the intestinal tract that are absorbed through the tiny holes in the intestinal wall into the blood vessels and bloodstream, then distributed throughout the body to be used as needed.

1. Stop eating animal and grain products and all other junk, including all processed foods. This is considered “dead” food.
2. Start eating only raw and organic fruit, vegetables, nuts and seeds.

This results in wrinkles gradually eliminated, new skin created and gray hair replaced with new hair growth in its natural color.

Some words of advice:
Each day plan when and what you’re going to eat and drink, and when and which exercises you are going to do. Follow your plan. Exercise and eat with supportive family and friends.